An interesting (and disturbing) question was posed to me this morning, inspired by the Tiger Woods/Jesse James scandals.  My radio partner Ramiro, asked me if I would rather my boyfriend of 3 1/2 years cheat on me with numerous one-time sex partners, or one woman he carried on a 3-year relationship with?  After catching my breath at just the thought of either one of those scenarios, I really thought about which situation I would most be able to deal with, and decided that the one that would be slightly easier for me to recover from would be the multiple one-night stands.  Why?  It’s all about the math.

Before I explain, let me make it clear that I’m not sure I would be able to deal with either one of them in the long-term, but  the game was that I had to pick one.  That said, I made my decision based on which one I considered the biggest betrayal.  For me, having my man carry on a relationship for pretty much 85% (if I did the math right) of the time we’ve been together, would be more devastating to me.  I know, the risk of disease is probably  higher with multiple partners, but I have to believe that the number of lies I was told would be MUCH higher in the 3-year relationship than with the one-night stands.   It’s all about the math.

Think about it, the sheer number of betrayals in that three year period would be enough to make anyone crazy.  If you’re like me, anytime you’ve been cheated on,  it makes you re-think every moment in your relationship.  Personally, I have a hard time getting those pictures out of  my head.

I also think that there’s a gender difference in answering the cheating question.  For women, I believe the emotional attachment of their man to another woman is completely unbearable.  For men, I think the thought of multiple penises inside of their woman would  put them over the edge.  Hell, men can’t deal with their woman having been with more than a couple men BEFORE them, never mind WHILE they’re with them!

I think the Tiger & Jesse scandals are making a lot of people crazy.  Me?  I’m choosing not to carry that scandal into my relationship.  Tiger made me think that if HE could do it, anyone could, but I can’t dwell on that.  Seriously, would it really do any good to always be on alert and questioning everything my man does?  I say no.

Just my humble opinion…Pebbles

What do YOU think?  Would you rather have your partner cheat with one person over the majority of your relationship, or have multiple one-night stands?  I would love to hear what you think, so please leave a comment! Remember…only your name, and no other information will be displayed.

Tiger Woods spoke for the first time on Friday and there have been lots of different reactions to his speech, so I figured I would share mine.   The speech was given with the understanding that there would only be a select group of Tiger’s friends, family, and colleagues present.  There was a single camera and only a few members of the media were allowed in the room.

I listened to press conference, so my initial reactions didn’t have anything to do with how he looked, but were based solely on his words.  Just listening,  I found him to sound like a truly defeated man who is sincerely sorry for what he did and was going to do his best to make amends to his wife, family, sponsors and fans.

I know that a lot of people don’t care what he had to say and no matter what he said, weren’t going to believe him, but I think he did what he had to do.   This was done because he needs to be sure his career is in tact when he is finished with therapy and whatever else he’s going to do to get his personal life back in order.  He needs to gain back the trust and respect of his sponsors, fans and the public.  It’s not going to be easy, but I do think that this was a step in the right direction.

I am one of the people who he talked about being a disappointment to.  I have been a huge Tiger fan for years, and I was SO upset when I heard about his “indiscretions.”  It was devastating for me to hear that he was not the person I thought he was.  After thinking about it, I realized that that is MY problem, not Tiger’s.  I was the one who put him on a pedestal.  I believed he was different from other athletes.  And I looked at him as a role model for adults and children alike.   It has really made me re-evaluate my thoughts on celebrities.  I don’t think there’s anything wrong with admiring them for their good qualities, but I think I need to do a better job at keeping in mind that they are human just like the rest of us and that they can and will make mistakes.

Although I’m finding that a lot of people don’t agree with me, I think that if we’re fans, we owe it to Tiger to allow him to make it up to us.   He screwed up…and his screw-up was of epic proportions!  He said that his wife told him that his apology to her was not going to come through words, but by his actions.  If she is willing to allow him to try to make it up to him, who are we to say no?

Back to Tiger’s speech, I’m not going to analyze it word for word, or examine his body language, but there were a couple of moments that stood out to me.  One was when he talked about the paparazzi following his wife and children.  It was the only time in the speech that I found him really expressing some strong emotion.  And I totally agree with him.  His children and wife should not be stalked to the point where they feel threatened.  When he spoke about that, it almost felt like he wanted to go off script for a moment and tell people what he really thought!  The other moment that stood out to me was when he talked about feeling entitled.  For me, that was one of the most honest moments of the speech.  Here’s the exact quote, “I knew my actions were wrong, but I convinced myself that normal rules didn’t apply. I never thought about who I was hurting. Instead, I thought only about myself. I ran straight through the boundaries that a married couple should live by. I thought I could get away with whatever I wanted to. I felt that I had worked hard my entire life and deserved to enjoy all the temptations around me. I felt I was entitled. Thanks to money and fame, I didn’t have to go far to find them.” I think that this is what happens to A LOT of celebrities, athletes and otherwise, and it was actually nice to hear someone admit it!

I’m sure that another celebrity scandal is going to come along at some point, and we’ll forget all about Tiger and his “indiscretions.”   He will make a triumphant return to golf, the public will forgive him, and the sponsors will be all over him  again.

So what did YOU think about Tiger’s speech?  Did you even watch it?  Do you think it was sincere, and did he say what you wanted him to?

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Just my humble opinion…Pebbles