So the question is… “Would you leave the person you love in order to live a lifelong dream?  This is the decision that a friend of my boyfriend is faced with.  Pay attention, it could get confusing!

My boyfriend’s friend, let’s call him Edward, has a girlfriend who we’ll call Bella. Hey, I’m a Twilight junkie, what do you want from me!  Anyway, Edward also has a friend we’ll call Alice who he has hooked up with off and on over the years when he wasn’t with someone.  Well Alice has inherited some money and is now a millionaire and wants to share the wealth with Edward.  She wants to give him the money for him to pursue a lifelong dream.  This is something that he has wanted to do his entire life, but hasn’t had the money to do it.  In addition, she’s going to buy him an expensive car, AND give him thousands of  ”just in-case” dollars.  Bella knows about, and hates Alice, which would mean that if Edward takes the money, it would be the end of his relationship.

So again, the question is…Would you leave the person you love in order to pursue a lifelong dream?  Let me first say that I’m sure it’s easy for people on the outside looking in to say what we would do because the money isn’t about to be deposited into our accounts.  That said, I thought long and hard about it, and at this point in my life, I would have to go with love.  I am currently with a man I adore and he makes me happier than I ever thought I could be.  Several years ago, I had given up on finding someone, and my life was all about my job.  I love it, but even though I denied it at the time, I still felt a longing for something more.

I have to make a point of saying that this does not mean that if you are currently single, you don’t have a life because that is absolutely not true.  We live our lives where we are, and if that means focusing on other areas of your life for a period of time, that’s where you are.  Hey, you may even choose to be single permanently.

Back to the other choice, love or money.  How do you make a choice like this?  For me, there are 5 questions you need to answer.  Once you have, I think you can make your decision.

1.  Five years from now, which decision do you think you would regret more…leaving the person you love, or leaving your dream behind?

2.  Which would be easier for you to replace or get…someone new to love, or the money to fund your dream?

3.  Which decision would you be more comfortable living with in the long-run?  Some people would feel that it says something about their character by making one choice over the other.

4.  How much do you really love this person, and can you live with the hurt you would cause them?

5.  When you envision your future, which could you not imagine living without?

I think if you answer these questions honestly (hey, it wouldn’t bother some people to hurt someone else), I believe you could make a decision you could live with.

Now it’s time for YOU to weigh in…What decision would YOU make?  What would go into making YOUR choice?  What do you think about people who choose money over love and vice-versa?  I would love to hear from you!  Please leave a comment, and remember, none of your personal info is ever displayed, only your name.

Thanks for reading…

Just my humble opinion, Pebbles!