An interesting (and disturbing) question was posed to me this morning, inspired by the Tiger Woods/Jesse James scandals.  My radio partner Ramiro, asked me if I would rather my boyfriend of 3 1/2 years cheat on me with numerous one-time sex partners, or one woman he carried on a 3-year relationship with?  After catching my breath at just the thought of either one of those scenarios, I really thought about which situation I would most be able to deal with, and decided that the one that would be slightly easier for me to recover from would be the multiple one-night stands.  Why?  It’s all about the math.

Before I explain, let me make it clear that I’m not sure I would be able to deal with either one of them in the long-term, but  the game was that I had to pick one.  That said, I made my decision based on which one I considered the biggest betrayal.  For me, having my man carry on a relationship for pretty much 85% (if I did the math right) of the time we’ve been together, would be more devastating to me.  I know, the risk of disease is probably  higher with multiple partners, but I have to believe that the number of lies I was told would be MUCH higher in the 3-year relationship than with the one-night stands.   It’s all about the math.

Think about it, the sheer number of betrayals in that three year period would be enough to make anyone crazy.  If you’re like me, anytime you’ve been cheated on,  it makes you re-think every moment in your relationship.  Personally, I have a hard time getting those pictures out of  my head.

I also think that there’s a gender difference in answering the cheating question.  For women, I believe the emotional attachment of their man to another woman is completely unbearable.  For men, I think the thought of multiple penises inside of their woman would  put them over the edge.  Hell, men can’t deal with their woman having been with more than a couple men BEFORE them, never mind WHILE they’re with them!

I think the Tiger & Jesse scandals are making a lot of people crazy.  Me?  I’m choosing not to carry that scandal into my relationship.  Tiger made me think that if HE could do it, anyone could, but I can’t dwell on that.  Seriously, would it really do any good to always be on alert and questioning everything my man does?  I say no.

Just my humble opinion…Pebbles

What do YOU think?  Would you rather have your partner cheat with one person over the majority of your relationship, or have multiple one-night stands?  I would love to hear what you think, so please leave a comment! Remember…only your name, and no other information will be displayed.