Looks like we have A Cleavage Controversy as Katy Perry’s boobs have been banned from Sesame Street.  In case you haven’t heard, Katy Perry was supposed to appear on the PBS show performing a kid-friendly version of her song Hot N Cold.  Well, that’s not going to happen after outraged parents complained about Katy’s choice of attire saying that her dress revealed too much cleavage.   Some parents even said their children were allegedly sexually aroused.   Hmmm, that is a moment that makes me happy I don’t have any kids.

Well, message boards all over the internet are jammed with differing opinions about The Great Cleavage Controversy, so I thought I would add my two cents.  First, let me say that I think the video is really cute, and Katy definitely has a personality that I think appeals to kids.  She comes off really sweet and fun, and teamed with Elmo, it’s a great combination.   While I do think that this would have affected parents more than the kids actually watching it,  I really do wish she would have covered up a little more.  I don’t consider myself a prude by any stretch of the imagination, but I have to say that for a family show, I think she could have chosen something a little less revealing.  I wish I had reasons a, b, and c to give you as to why, but I have to say that it’s just a gut feeling that I have about the situation.

The closest thing I can equate it to is going to a kids birthday party and there’s one parent who shows up with something a little too revealing.  No kid is going to be traumatized, and they’re going to care more about the cake and the clown, but for the occasion, it’s just not appropriate.

I’m not sure how Katy is feeling about the whole issue, but I’m hoping that she gets to re-shoot the video and that it will run on the show because it is really cute.

Just my humble opinion…Pebbles

What do you think about The Great Cleavage Controversy?  Do you think the whole thing is overblown, or that Katy should have covered up?  If you have kids, does it bother you?  Let me know by leaving a comment!  Thanks!

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I’ll be honest.  I’m in the minority when it comes to Lady Gaga.  I’m not a big fan of her music, and I don’t think that her crazy costumes are fashion.  I pretty much think of her as a woman with a great voice who knows that it was going to take a serious gimmick for her to become the success she is today.  But yesterday, I realized that I have a newfound respect for Lady Gaga after her appearance in Maine to push for the repeal of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,” the current policy banning open gays in the military. In case you haven’t seen the footage of her speech, here it is…

Based on what I’ve seen on some message boards, she’s taking a lot of crap for putting herself out there.   A lot of people think that she, and other celebrities, should just do what they do and shut up about politics.   I for one, think that what she did was great.  I like to see what celebrities have to offer besides what they’re known for, as long as it’s genuine and not just another part of their publicity machine.  I believe Lady Gaga truly believes in what she is supporting and is not just doing it to satisfy a certain population of her fan base.

So today, I just wanted to acknowledge Lady Gaga for taking a stand for something she is passionate about.  I applaud her and other celebrities who lend their voices and time, and not just their money to the causes they believe in.  People like:  Oprah, Angelina Jolie, Alicia Keys, Will.i.am,  Ian Somerhalder,  Eva Longoria-Parker, Elton John,  Sandra Bullock and the many, many more who do great things for people who are discriminated against or can’t speak for themselves.

Just my humble opinion…Pebbles

What do you think about celebrities who speak out about the causes they believe in, or get involved in politics?  Do you want them to just sing, act, play sports or whatever it is they do?  Or do you like to hear them getting involved.  Leave me a comment.  I would love to hear what you have to say.

This morning on the radio (The Ramiro & Pebbles Show on Jamn 94.5), I had the “opportunity” to interview one of Tiger Woods’ mistresses.  Joslyn James is her name, and she’s the one who released the 100 or so text messages that Tiger sent her including gems like, “I want to treat you rough, throw you around, spank and slap you,” and “You are my f**king whore. Hold you down while I choke you.” During the conversation, she repeatedly said that coming out was not about the money and that all she wanted was an apology from Tiger, and to get the truth out there.  REALLY???  I had to challenge her because apparently, she’s coming out with some other tasty morsel of scandaliciousness (new word!) that she plans to drop just before Tiger’s comeback at The Masters.  Mind you, I have NO sympathy for Tiger at all, but for her to say that this has nothing to do with money and/or fame whoring is ridiculous!  I wanted to straight out call her a liar, but honestly, I didn’t feel it was worth the energy.  The fact that she feels she deserves an apology from Tiger is laughable.  Again, I don’t sympathize with him at all, but come on, what is he apologizing for?  You KNEW he was married and still carried on a relationship with him!  No one is feeling sorry for either one of you.

That brings me to my next point.  Jesse James Mistress #3, Brigitte Daguerre, has some words of her own about her role in the break-up of Jesse’s marriage to Sandra Bullock.  In a statement on her website, Brigitte said the following…“For the record, I have ruined no ones marriage. The married person is always responsible for his/her actions & single people are not responsible for other people’s relationships/marriages.” While she says that she and Jesse only had sex 4 times and didn’t have an actual relationship, let’s talk about that statement she made.

My personal opinion is that if someone is married, cheats on his/her partner and they break up, they are responsible.  I also believe that if you are having an affair with a married person and you know they are married, you are also to blame.  You may not be the one who is committing infidelity, but you are wrong as well.  I was asked by my co-host Ramiro, if I had to say who was more at fault who would I blame, and believe it or not, I agree with Brigitte.  It is the married person’s responsibility to remain faithful.   But to say that the other person should accept no blame for the break-up is insane.

That is why Joslyn James needs to take her 100 Tiger Texts and whatever else she has, stop lying, and definitely stop waiting for an apology!  She doesn’t deserve one!  After reading Brigitte’s statement, if she is telling the truth, I feel a little bad for her.  She had some sex with Jesse, says she didn’t know he was married, and that one tabloid tried to pay a homeless guy in her neighborhood $500 bucks to say they saw Jesse there.  She also says that she’s not planning on doing any radio or TV tours to make some money off of this.  Joselyn, on the other hand, deserves everything she gets…except an apology from Tiger!

Just my humble opinion…Pebbles

I would love to hear what you have to say.  Do you think that the married person is more to blame?  Do mistresses deserve an apology?  Leave me a comment and let me know!

An interesting (and disturbing) question was posed to me this morning, inspired by the Tiger Woods/Jesse James scandals.  My radio partner Ramiro, asked me if I would rather my boyfriend of 3 1/2 years cheat on me with numerous one-time sex partners, or one woman he carried on a 3-year relationship with?  After catching my breath at just the thought of either one of those scenarios, I really thought about which situation I would most be able to deal with, and decided that the one that would be slightly easier for me to recover from would be the multiple one-night stands.  Why?  It’s all about the math.

Before I explain, let me make it clear that I’m not sure I would be able to deal with either one of them in the long-term, but  the game was that I had to pick one.  That said, I made my decision based on which one I considered the biggest betrayal.  For me, having my man carry on a relationship for pretty much 85% (if I did the math right) of the time we’ve been together, would be more devastating to me.  I know, the risk of disease is probably  higher with multiple partners, but I have to believe that the number of lies I was told would be MUCH higher in the 3-year relationship than with the one-night stands.   It’s all about the math.

Think about it, the sheer number of betrayals in that three year period would be enough to make anyone crazy.  If you’re like me, anytime you’ve been cheated on,  it makes you re-think every moment in your relationship.  Personally, I have a hard time getting those pictures out of  my head.

I also think that there’s a gender difference in answering the cheating question.  For women, I believe the emotional attachment of their man to another woman is completely unbearable.  For men, I think the thought of multiple penises inside of their woman would  put them over the edge.  Hell, men can’t deal with their woman having been with more than a couple men BEFORE them, never mind WHILE they’re with them!

I think the Tiger & Jesse scandals are making a lot of people crazy.  Me?  I’m choosing not to carry that scandal into my relationship.  Tiger made me think that if HE could do it, anyone could, but I can’t dwell on that.  Seriously, would it really do any good to always be on alert and questioning everything my man does?  I say no.

Just my humble opinion…Pebbles

What do YOU think?  Would you rather have your partner cheat with one person over the majority of your relationship, or have multiple one-night stands?  I would love to hear what you think, so please leave a comment! Remember…only your name, and no other information will be displayed.

Actress…excuse me…Oscar Nominated Actress Gabourey Sidibe has been the brunt of numerous jokes and downright mean comments over the past couple days.  Since my new motto is, don’t get mad…blog, I need to address this.  The first “joke” I heard was comparing Gabourey aka Precious with the football player from The Blind Side.  I’m sure some of you are laughing as you’re reading this, but it just makes me so sad.  Even worse is Howard Stern and Robin talking about her on their radio show.  I only put it here with the hope that you will find it as awful as I do, and start to not find these vicious comments funny.

What I love about Gabby is that she loves herself.  I’m a big girl myself, and I have to say that I wish I had the confidence that she does.  I struggle with it every single day, and I hope to one day feel as comfortable in my skin as she does.  The other thing I love about her is that she is funny without making fun of herself.  Believe me, when you’re big, it’s so easy to make fun of yourself and become the brunt of all your jokes.  It’s definitely a case of making fun of yourself before someone else can.  Watching Gabby on the red carpet at the Oscars was amazing.  She was having fun, was confidently posing along with all the size zero and 2′s, and come on, she fist-bumped Keanu Reeves!  And people were excited to meet HER! I was really happy for her!

The other comment I’ve been hearing, is that people are lying to her and that she’s not going to have a successful career because of her size.  Do I think that it’s going to be easy for her?  Absolutely not.  BUT, are people forgetting the two seriously powerful people who are supporting her…Oprah and Tyler Perry.  That girl will have roles MADE for her.  She’s not going to have to worry about fitting into “Skinny Hollywood.”  I believe that she’s going to be able to write her own ticket and have a bright future. NOTE:  She just finished filmimg”Yelling to the Sky,” and has just signed a deal to appear as a recurring character on the new Showtime series “The C Word.”

The only thing that I will say about her weight is that for health reasons, it will be to her benefit to lose weight.  We all know the statistics and risks, especially for African-Americans, so I do hope that she (and me too!) lose weight so that we can live a long, happy and healthy life!

Remember, Hollywood has to listen to us.  We are the ones going to the movies, we are the ones spending money, and we are the ones who should take a stand and support good actors…and not just the skinny ones!

Just my humble opinion…Pebbles

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