Guessing who’s gay…our obsession with gay celebrities.
March 9th, 2010
Actor Sean Hayes (Jack from Will & Grace) revealed in a recent interview with The Advocate magazine that he is in fact gay. I’m sure a lot of you are sitting there thinking “DUH!” Hey, I suspected, but I never want to make assumptions. Plus it made me think…why do we care so much about who’s gay?
In the interview, Hayes says, “I am who I am. I was never in, as they say. Never.” He goes on to say that he never revealed his sexual orientation publicly because frankly, it’s no ones business. He says, “I believe that nobody owes anything to anybody…You are your authentic self to whom and when you choose to be, and if you don’t know somebody, then why would you explain to them how you live your life?” That is such a true statement. I understand that actors are public figures and by choosing the careers they do, open themselves up to more scrutiny than the average person. But really, why should they have to explain who they love and have sex with? How does it make our lives any more complete by knowing that information?
Celebrity blogger Perez Hilton reported the story and said that it’s about time he spoke the truth and it’s been a long time coming. I know he’s really popular, but it really bothers me that Perez feels the need to “out” people all the time. Just because HE is openly gay, doesn’t mean that he has the right to tell other people when they should come out! Look…we’re all curious, and we have our suspicions about certain celebrities, but the way that Perez tries to bully people into coming out is ridiculous.
I am not gay, but I can’t even imagine making the decision to reveal who you are to another person. And yes, we have come a long way, but there are still a lot of people who don’t condone “the lifestyle.” I’m guessing that it’s hard enough to come out when you have a supportive family and friends, never mind if you don’t! That is a process that people should be allowed to go through in their own time, not when someone else feels they should.
So let me ask you…are you curious about which celebrities are gay? Do you feel that they should just come out? Why do you care so much? I would love to hear from you!
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Just my humble opinion…Pebbles
CLICK HERE to read the entire article with Sean Hayes in The Advocate.
Tags: Sean Hayes, The Advocate
Posted in Celebrities | Comments (2)
March 9th, 2010 at 11:23 am
As a gay person I think it’s important for closeted celebs to come out & show there’s nothing to be ashamed of. They don’t have to make a big splash about it but a gay celeb who continually shows up in public w/ someone of the opposite sex is relaying the message that something is wrong. The idea is to be out and when we get a point where it truly doesn’t matter. This isn’t about a celeb’s privacy, etc. It’s about helping that everyday person who is struggling to accept themself. All gay people do have a duty to each other, like it or not.
March 9th, 2010 at 12:04 pm
I love your blog Pebz! Thank you for posting the Sean Hayes interview! I think you are right on the money with what you said. Coming out is something that should be done in one’s own time, not at the demand and ransom of some over-the-top, bad-stereotype of what a gay man is all about.
The only person you truly owe anything to is yourself. The whole notion of having a big, splashy “Coming Out” is in my opinion cliche’, tacky and actually makes it seem as though you have something you’re trying to prove. I was one of the very fortunate people who’s family and friends were 110% supportive and accepting when I revealed my sexuality. Not everyone is that lucky however. While I agree with Anastasia’s notion that we should be able to live in a world where one’s sexuality doesn’t matter and everyone should be free to be who they are no exceptions, sadly that is not the reality we live in, and there is still a lot of hatred and stigma against the gay community. And let it be known that all gay people DO NOT have a duty to one another! Coming out is a deeply personal decision that should be made only because you as an individual feel it is right for you. Not all people’s circumstances are the same and allow them to do so. In some cases, it may actually be worse, bringing them physical or emotional harm from those surrounding them. I think especially in the case of celebrities, whose lives are under a gigantic microscope and made to be the subject of water cooler gossip, being able to come out of the closet is a very brave decision. However, it should not be expected of them. Just like straight people, there are some gays that are just very private people and keep their personal lives to themselves, while others choose to post their every move on Facebook or Twitter. Regardless of sexual orientation, I think the bigger issue is actually privacy, or lack thereof. We aren’t just obsessed with trying to “out” the gays. We’re obsessed with Kim and Reggie on vaycay; we’re obsessed with reading about Brangelina’s latest “break-up”; we’re obsessed with building people up and then watching them tumble to the bottom. But for what? What does knowing the intimate details of someone who we don’t even know bring to our lives? NOTHING! At best, its entertainment. If anything though, its really just a distraction from focusing on what is going on within our own lives. People in general need to stop using each other as a means to build themselves up by tearing others down. Focus on what makes you a happier and better person by changing who you are inside, not criticizing another for their lifestyle. And to all the haters out there trying to out people or talk smack about others for their own petty amusement, I just have one question for you…
“WHY YOU SO OBSESSED WITH ME??”
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<3 YA PEBZ!
**Jarrett